Marriage Shouldn't Be A Big Mistery

When I talk to married couples about marriage, they typically fall into two camps. The first is that they are in love, some unexplained high from whatever it is and the second is that they are in the dumps and something is not working. I rarely hear about people in the middle.

Normally, people allude that marriage takes a lot of work, but no one really talk about anything in detail. For example, what exactly are some of the conflicts that people face and how do they resolve it with their significant other?

It's almost as if marriage is some secret society and once you are in, you become mum and you stop sharing the deets. 

In Tim Keller's book, The Meaning of Marriage, Tim talks about how much work marriage is and how he struggled to understand his wife through all those years. I think it's one of the few honest accounts about just what marriage is about. 

Most women / relationships are catered toward the young, single readers-- how to snatch a boo, how to flirt, how to be sexy. After marriage, most blogs are catered to stuff like, how to have better sex, how to keep romance, how to cook tasty meals. 

It's almost like saying that marriage is the same as pre-marriage. You just need to master some skills, i.e. sex and romance, and life will just be perfect. 

The practical person in me knows that this is far from the truth. 

A successful marriage is more than just doing the right thing. It's a journey that only two people can walk together. 

I think life after marriage shouldn't be a big mystery. People should be open about what's working and what's not. What are the triumphs and what are the challenges. It's a journey for the two people involved, but that doesn't mean it has to be a lonely one. 

I intend to demystify what life after marriage is like and it is my hope that with time, I can collect a community of men and women who can share what it is really like, after all the glitz and glamour of the big day pass